Thursday, 30 October 2014

What Even Is a 'Slut'?



Ok so this is probably something you'll hear a lot throughout life

"Ugh she's such a slut..."

"She looks like a slut."

"I can't wear that, people will think I'm a slut."

What does that even mean?

The common response to 'what is a slut?' is 'a woman who has too much sexual interaction with too many different men.' (This is a summary of most of the responses I received when I asked people and I cleaned up the language a little.)

My response to this is how many is 'too many'? Is it over 5? Over 10? Over 100? Who decided that there is a limit on how many sexual encounters you can have in your life? When I asked people to clarify some people said it depends on the person, that just seems unfair. According to many people it falls on a spectrum and it's a combination of clothing, actions and general personality...meaning if you're just a naturally flirtatious person - even if you don't realise it, you could be classed as a slut. This idea confuses me, mainly because it just seems like a leftover ideal from when you weren't meant to sleep with anyone until you married them and men and women could only interact in a distant but polite manner. The concept of too many sexual partners just seems dated to me, I thought we'd moved past this?

My next source of confusion is how do you 'look like a slut?' As far as I'm concerned your sexual preferences aren't directly linked to the way you dress. So how can we define some-one as a slut or a prude based purely on their appearance as they're walking down the street? Is some-one 'slutty' if they're wearing a crop top and shorts...what if it's just really hot outside?

I honestly believe that sluts don't exist, it isn't a real thing. Different girls have different styles, sexual preferences and general personalities. The term 'slut' is as far as I'm concerned a made up term to try and keep people in unnecessary categories that don't actually make any sense.

In conclusion, don't call people sluts! It really is that simple. All you're doing is trying to put someone down for doing something that isn't actually wrong...

I would love to hear your opinion on the term 'slut' and other terms that pretty much mean the same thing. Do you agree that it isn't actually a real thing? Let me know and have an absolutely wonderful day! (:


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